It’s a common misconception that to manage our emotions is to either ignore them or to control them, whereas all emotions are there to be acknowledged and used as a signalling tool enabling us to make sense of what’s happening to us – and decide whether it’s aligned (with who we are in that moment and our values) or not. Emotions are therefore data that needs to be used effectively.
The problem is that a lot of us doesn’t understand that data, what emotions they are experiencing, and what they are trying to tell them and subsequently – they allow that lack of awareness govern their behaviour, without often giving much consideration to overarching intention, leading to misaligned and unsupportive choices.
This is why in the Mindset to Growth and Mindset to Lead programmes we train you – the leaders and their teams – in development of key habits and practices supporting mindset of Growth, including Being Present with your own emotions as well as emotions of others; Being Curious – about your mindset and your intention; as well as Being Choiceful – using the power of self-responsibility to increase personal and interpersonal effectiveness. All these are key to increased productivity, resilience and wellbeing (and so much more – see my previous articles), your overall performance.
The below article provides some fantastic live examples of how these habits play out in every day work situations:
Times of sweeping our feelings under the proverbial carpet are over, as the pile has become too big.
It is a combination of mindset and emotional intelligence, not skillset, that is key to sustained growth and high performance.
Today I invite you to slow down, take a look at the below Feelings Gage and ask yourself the following questions:
How am I feeling right now? [name the feeling]
What are those feelings trying to tell me?
What do I choose to do based on how I feel?